We all go through loss at one point or the other in our daily life. This could be the death of a pet, or the loss of a loved one, heartbreak, or a nasty divorce. It does not matter the circumstances, grief is a garment of many colors. What is significant is that the sorrowful periods in our lives may take a great deal of time for us to heal and move on.
However, some of us never really do, and the pain each day is like a fresh wound that never heals. This could eventually lead us to despair, drug abuse, and depression. Many of us find it hard to share our grief with friends or family. Depending on the loss we feel, we could be isolated, or taken for granted.
The people close to us tend to underestimate the pain we go through. Although they may be supportive in the beginning, our family and friends inevitably become frustrated when we find it hard to let go of our grief. This is why we need professional help. This would be a competent and enduring grief counselor who can offer us the roadmap to recovery, wellness, and productivity.
Unfortunately, the art of grief coaching is gradually being eroded in today’s social media environment. Many rag-tag professionals who have no idea what grief therapy is all about, pretend to listen to their clients while distractingly surfing the web or interacting on social media platforms.
A good grief counselor must pay 100% attention to you and ask relevant questions that are essential to helping you find your inner peace.
There are many more pointers to choosing the right grief coach. This includes:
This is a no-brainer. Your grief therapist must be a coach you are comfortable sharing your emotions with. It does not matter the gender of the professional; you have to feel comfortable and safe when you interact with your therapist.
First impressions matter, and if you do not feel safe or secure, chances are you would find it difficult to share your feelings or emotions leading to protracted and fruitless sessions. If you do not feel safe or secure, find another therapist as no obligations are requiring you to continue with future sessions.
A good grief therapist must always adhere to the ethical guidelines which are formulated to safeguard both coaches and clients from harm. This also speaks towards dual relationships, as a grief therapist is precluded from having any other relationship with a client once a therapeutic relationship has been contracted with such a client.
The relationship must be kept strictly professional, and the only needs to be provided by the therapist are those which contribute towards the guidance, support, and healing of the client.
A good grief coach or therapist is a dynamic individual, open to feedback, and constantly adjusting their strategy and sessions to suit the client. There is no ‘one size fits all’ technique to provide quality grief coaching services. A good therapist knows this.
A healthy therapist is willing to admit mistakes and open to adjusting their methods in order to provide succor and solace. The ‘customer is king’ is a well-known statement and this is also true for grief therapy. The needs of the client must always come first.
It is popularly said that great people make lemonade out of the lemons life gives them. Bad things happen but your happiness should never be among the causality. Enlightened grieving will bring back the sparkle to your life – enabling you to see the beautiful silver lining in the cloud.
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